Random Concepts

As adults, we should know who we are by now. Some of us keep it real while others can be 2-faced. We have parents for a reason. Some of us share a bond with our parents, while others may not. Some of this is the reason why we allow people to make drastic changes in our lives. Life is like a VCR with no rewind buttton.

Some people still have both of their parents while others are either living in a single parent household or may be living out on their own. But the children that don't have a bond with their parents suffer the most. They never say it out loud but its true.

Its a void that cant be explained. They mask the pain with drugs or alcohol, joining a gang, or in some cases, they may join the armed forces just because they want to feel like they are a part of something. I have heard these concepts before so that's where I get my information.

Then, these people encounter someone that thinks they are a great parent figure. Ok, if that's true, where were you all these years that this child needed love? Nowhere. So, dont try and hand down advice now. People don't allow elders to care for their children anymore and that's quite sad.

But then you have those, "You should listen to me, I know what I'm talking about" people. They just like to hear the sound of their own voice. Riddle me this: If you know what you are talking about, why are you broke, busted and disgusted? If you know so much, why are you not more productive in life? With all of your, "I know what I'm talking about", you should have accomplished something in life other than that phrase.

I could go on and on about that. But I'm going to shift gears now. To another random concept.

People tend to change when they get married. The scriptures say: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. You cant argue with the bible. But people have that bible concept all the way wrong.

They think that getting married makes you right. Wrong. Many say God has to be in a marriage to make it right. This is true. But trying to make a person go to church or force religion on them is impossible. You know the person that you married before you read those vows so why try to switch it up now?

For the record, you can meet someone that says that they know God, they are a Christian, etc. They really have you thinking that they are holy ghost filled.....and you marry them. That was just a front.

A lot of us have a constant habit of giving people the benefit of the doubt. Most of the time, its a person that we love and we want them to change. But you can’t change someone.

This person is aware of their actions and the consequences of their actions. Sometimes, you have to leave them alone for them to see that they need to change. It’s hard for a man/woman to leave someone they love even if the person has bad habits (smoking & drinking) to the point where it takes a toll on them.

Some people never think that they do anything wrong. When you say your feelings are hurt, that fuels their ego. Its a joke to them that your feelings are hurt. They can be sarcastic about it or narcissistic. But when you turn the tables, they want to know what your problem is and who you think you are. A simple answer: how does it feel now that the shoe is on the other foot?

Every action does not require a reaction. Life is short and you only get one. Only give time to what’s important and let the rest go. Life is short and you only get one. I’m not uptight and sophisticated by any means. I defend myself when I have to and only when provoked.

But I am so tired of seeing black women in prison for fighting over a no-good man. One of you is doing time in prison for murder, while he is out living his life.

Some black men are in prison for fighting over a no-good woman. One of you is doing time in prison for murder and she is out living her life, probably with a new man.

To end my story, I say this: Be who you are, nothing more, nothing less. Lead your life so you know what to expect.