marriage
Marriage is not so much a word as it is a sentence–a life sentence.
Marriage 101
I’ve never wrote a blog in my life, though I’ve made several attempts. I’m back at it again with determination! I’ve been searching the interwebs just to find out exactly what I would be good at writing. The only thing I’m really good at, crafting wise, is crocheting, but I’m just terrible with making my own patterns. I was laying in bed just scrolling away, lost in thought. Then a lightbulb lit up right above my head and I thought it would be an excellent idea to write about my daily experience as a married women. The ups and the downs, the forever and the always. Right now Christopher, my husband, and I have been married for eight months. We have been together for almost four years (January is four years). It’s been tough, especially when we don’t see eye to eye. For example, I wrote him a note and taped it to the entertainment stand for him to read. It stated, “there are five cookies in the fridge, eat only two. I want the rest for work. I have (such and such money) in my bank account. Yes I checked before bed. Wake me up at 9:30.” So, for starters, he woke me up at 8:30 and, when I woke up, I opened the microwave to see that out of five cookies…five…he left me one. Just one damn cookie. He said he didn’t read the whole note and that he didn’t eat that many. Where did the other two go? Did they grow legs and walk away? Cause I was asleep, I didn’t eat them. I was a little upset, but at the end of the day, they are just cookies. Delicious soft sugar cookies. I do have to give a huge shout out to my husband, though, for cleaning up the house, doing dishes, sweeping the floors, and putting my work clothes in the dryer before I leave for work. The only thing I wish was different was that he had a job and could keep a job. Life would be 100% better. We are just scraping by with what money I make and let me tell you, it’s not much. I try to get as much overtime as possible but this woman is pooped! Right now, it’s almost December shut down and, since I’m a temp, I do not get paid, so we are going like a week without having any money. We still owe the landlord a $100+ electric bill and washer and dryer rent is due to Aaron’s this month (thank God it’s our last payment). We are definitely struggling right now moneywise, since I didn’t get paid for November shut down as well. I keep wanting to save money, but I never have any to actually put back, because after rent and other bills I have a whole whopping $7.00 in my account. I never have any money to spend on me. I can never get my hair done, nails done, buy coffee, buy pants that fit me, or anything else. We are just trying to survive, but one thing I know is that at the end of the day we WILL make it through, because we have each other. No matter what happens, I have Christopher to lean on and he has me to lean on. Marriage is a team effort and we have to work together, even if it’s in different ways. No matter how many cookies he eats, I know that he would buy an entire box just to say “I'm sorry.” Everyone needs that type of man in their life.
By The.H.Blog8 years ago in Humans
Love is Magical
Love is hard. Love is a commitment. Love is magical. I’m not talking about the kind of magic you’ve seen in the Disney movies when the fairy godmother helped turn Cinderella into a princess. I’m talking about real magic that you can feel deep in your heart when you know that you have found the one with whom your soul loves.
By Kristen Creel8 years ago in Humans
Living With the Narcissist
Mom always told me I was pretty. Prettier than average. She told me to use this to my advantage. I had my first son at the age of 17. Ten days before I turned 18. I would always look at it as though I was somehow more responsible than the next teen mom because “I waited until I was almost an adult.” Eye roll, right?
By Christie Buskirk8 years ago in Humans
Failing Marriages
Some marriages today are not lasting as long as the vows people take when getting married. The last sentence in the vows is till death do we part. A piece of paper does not keep the marriage together. It takes a lot of work. For some people, they give up when things get tough instead of sticking it out.
By Ebony Ward8 years ago in Humans
Newly Mrs.
To really understand my newly found title, we must first go back two years ago. Woah, this is going to be a whirlwind. Two years ago, I was rolling into my second half of tech school and standing by my side cheering me on was my tech school best friend Mary. Now, while Mary was the one who craved long term relationships, I tended to dwell in the “what's going to happen this weekend?” However; I had started to form some what of a relationship with a guy who at the time was 5.5 years older then me.
By Meg Leamer8 years ago in Humans
50 Reasons to Find a Husband
Disclaimer: I don't need a husband right now, I just need more promising prospects to ensure that one day marriage is still in the plans. Looking back at my history it is not looking too promising. If anything it's slightly, actually, honestly, it's massively disappointing. Nevertheless if you're wondering why the search for love is such a big deal for me, these 50 reasons below - yes some shallow - will explain a thing or two.
By Kait Nevin8 years ago in Humans
When the World Collapsed
We met in Florida. I was living there with my mother, working and just enjoying the Sunshine State. He had moved there from New York State for a job. We spent every moment together when we could go. Riding the motorcycle, sitting at the beach talking, or just walking around taking in the sights. We moved to his hometown which was a huge change for me. I got pregnant with our first daughter and we married right before she was born. We went through a lot of bad times together and some were very hard but we always stuck together. Fast forward a little over ten years. We had two more daughters, he had a very good job, and I was a stay-at-home mom who didn't have to worry about a thing. Our girls at the time were 7, 4, and 2. His job required him to travel and so during the week he wasn't home, which the girls and I were accustomed to.
By Somer Michalski-Jones8 years ago in Humans
Rants of a Spouse Coping With a Pill Addict
I am the wife of a man that is addicted to pain meds and Xanax. I know there are many people out there that will relate to my story (rant). Often the focus is on the addict and what needs to be done to help them. Am I right? What about us? The people that have to or shall I say choose to deal with the lies, financial struggle, mood swings, etc.? They have drugs to cope with whatever it is that they are dealing with. We have nothing and sometimes no one to help.
By Tammy Chisholm8 years ago in Humans
Wedding Photos You Must Have Taken
Trying to capture every given moment of your wedding day is a given. You want to remember that day for the rest of your life, in as much detail as you can. And even as wedding trends change year after year, there is a certain evergreenness (if that is a word) your wedding photos need to have, if they are to stand the test of time. You don’t want to have the same photos everyone else has – you want something unique to your wedding alone. You also want something that will not be a bore to shoot, and a chance to have fun with your guests and loved ones, while going through the motions of having your picture taken.
By Rebecca Brown8 years ago in Humans
Soul to Soul
The moment their eyes met, she felt the hands of eternity itself wrap around her heart as peace filled every pore of her being—she was home and she had not even known she had left. Here, for the first time, infinity welcomed her in its embrace of beingness, and she swam languidly in it’s depths. Although she had forgotten to breathe, her lungs drew in air of their own accord, hardly daring to stop lest they interrupt the bliss that every mote and atom celebrated in this instant. This was love and the entire universe knew it and danced in time to the beat of their hearts. They would remember this moment for years as "the big bang," the moment a new universe all of their own was created, and it was they who had created it with their willingness to love each other. Nothing they had ever experienced to this point could compare with the divinity they each held in their hearts. Their minds had never been so still and clear, and neither of them had ever known such clarity and purpose. They merged and soared in the oneness of unity and sang silently of their joy across time and space dimensions. Each had known misery and had thought themselves to be in a hellish place of wretchedness and hopelessness. They had both begun to despair of finding happiness at all and had surrendered all need to control anything in order to simply survive. Free falling into this abyss by choice, they had found each other, and now the heavens sang in praise for all to see and hear. By the clock, it all lasted a nanosecond, but by heart-time, this celebration lasted aeons as their flames united again and blazed into life as one.
By Gabriella Grace8 years ago in Humans
Is Cousin Marriage Really All That Bad?
Oh, this is going to be a fun one – I can see some of you squirming in your seats already! And that's the thing, isn't it? Cousin marriages are a bit icky, a thing to be mocked or pitied, in Western culture at least. You might wonder why we even need to explore this topic, I mean, it's just a bit gross, yeah? Who'd ever want to marry their cousin? Unless they live in a trailer park, amirite? Well, I grew up in a place where those sorts of jokes were common, so maybe I'm the right person to break this one down. Let's begin by looking at the legal situation.
By Katy Preen8 years ago in Humans
Thoughts on Divorce
When you get engaged, all you hear about are the exciting things that come from it. You get to anticipate falling asleep and waking up in your best friend’s arms every morning. You get to look forward to the romantic late nights and long days of getting to be by their side anytime you want. You think about the adventures and countless movies and bags of popcorn you’ll go through. Yes, these are all great… but what about the nights you have to hold her, sobbing, because she’s had a horrible day? What about the day he gets laid off and you have to convince him it’s all going to be okay? What about when someone close passes and she goes through a horrible bout of depression? What about when he gets told he has a heart disease and needs to change his diet and take medicines for the rest of his life? You never hear about any of the possible terrible fights. Or the tragedies of accidents and deaths. You don’t think about the days when things aren’t going to go as planned and your worlds fall apart. But THEY HAPPEN whether we think about it beforehand or not.
By Deserae Manning8 years ago in Humans
