self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Love Who is Staring Right Back At You!
One of my struggles these past few years is that I am not totally comfortable with who I see looking back at me. I have been struggling with my weight for some time now and although I was once very cofident when I was gaining weight, I began letting outside influences tell me I shouldn't be. When I was up for a promotion and began seeing people get chosen over me four times in a row I decided to vent my frustration out to a loved one. What came to question wasn't my work ethic but how I look. I was literally told that I should consider losing some weight. I asked what they meant by that statement and they began telling me how a company wants to project a image and it could be that I don't fit the mold. Can I tell you that, that idea did nothing to help me? If anything I began eating more! I ignored that superficial idea that in other words my "girth" is what was holding me back and I just worked harder for what I wanted. Eventually I got the promotion and I also got recognition for other things I accomplished while still maintaining the weight I was and still currently at. I won't deny that I could be a little more on the healthier side of things. Everyone in this world could stand to drop a few pounds but that is for you to decide and shouldn't play a factor in anyone's success. It's like saying the most desirable people should have everything and that's not fair. I think it is truly important to just be comfortable in your own skin. Be so comfortable that it makes other people cringe. You have to radiate confidence and if anyone makes any lopsided comments like the one said to me, prove them wrong. Look at many of the successful women out there now who face image troubles with the most famous one being Oprah! When she decided to take control of her health she definitely did it when it was suitable for her, so how you look should never define anyone's success unless you clearly want to be a model. If you want to be successful in other ways first be comfortable with who you are as a individual, love and embrace who you see everyday. Every morning when I am practicing my self-care, I try to repeat affirmations. Affirmations really help drill in positive thoughts and it's a great way to began your day. I tell myself first that I will have a great day. If you own it, you will achieve it! I compliment myself and I end my affirmation with a goal. The goal is always to end my day the way it began. If I woke up positive I want to go to sleep the same way. It doesn't matter how horrible of day it might have been. I refuse to take that stress with me to my bed because you know what happens? Insomnia, tossing and turning and not mention puffy eyes. I do not want to see my eyes the size of sand bags and bloodshot red when I wake up. No thanks. I also take pride in how I look. You don't have to dress like you are right out of a magazine but just showing that you took pride in your appearance can give you this nice little jolt of confidence because you know you look good and that energy can speak volumes. Make sure you are presenting yourself in a good image that you are proud of. Now what you might like might not meet everyone's approval and that's ok because we aren't out here trying to please anyone but ourselves, but please, run a comb through your hair; Keep up appearances, not for others but for yourself. You have to appreciate what you see everyday. Now when you are conquering your day, make sure you are behaving. I don't mean behave by society standards but behave in a way that makes you proud. A simple way of putting it is by treating others how you want to be treated. All day we are interacting with others and some interactions can be unsavory but even though you might feel triggered at some point just allow yourself to take a step back and think to yourself, what can I do in this situation that will allow me to think back and be proud that I didn't fly off the handle. I personally always think about a few people I have come across who would be so nasty to me and for no reason whatsoever and I would wonder how they slept at night. Then every they put off on me left them looking so ugly and I just wondered how they felt on the inside. It has to be heavy carrying around all that animosity day in and day out and it showed. This one woman would always come to work disheveled, she looked dirty like she didn't comprehend hygiene, and her face was always red like she was fire, hot mad and she never failed to be insulting to any and everyone. I told her once that if she just took a moment and thought about she could make someone's day rather than destroy theirs she might feel better at the end of her shift. Eventually she sought therapy to help her with her issues and became more pleasant and stopped looking like a bat that flew out of hell and once she felt good, that energy started exuding on to us. What I am saying is just love yourself no matter what. Love yourself until it hurts other people to see how comfortable you are in your skin. It can be contagious.
By Dishanta Lopez6 years ago in Motivation
When you feel it
This life we all live each day, isn't how it was supposed to be. It wasn't what was meant to be. We were to walk free, living the bountiful abundance of a world where there is enough for everyone. Everyone, you, me, not just the privileged few. No matter what size we are, no matter what color we are, no matter what part of the world we are born.
By Lee Naylor6 years ago in Motivation
Your ending can be a new beginning
Your ending can be a new beginning COPYRIGHT DISCLOSURE “All rights reserved. No part of this Mental Toughness Power Action blog publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form, or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recorded, scanning, displaying, modifying, republication, republishing, posting on any website, platform, social media, RSS feeds or otherwise without the prior written permission of the publisher or author. Requests to the author should be addressed to [email protected].” — Copyright 2007, CIPO, USCO Mental Toughness For Life, Coach Franco Cianflone
By FRANCO CIANFLONE 6 years ago in Motivation
★👑 𝘍𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘯𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶👑★
♥𝓕𝓪 𝓵𝓵 𝓲𝓷𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝔂𝓸𝓾♥ The reason i a m writing this is because i for years haven't been able to love myself and it has been horrible.I tried a lot and nothing worked.I just didn't love myself which made me not have self respect or self worth. Now people don't respect me because for years i let them not respect me which has led me to feel hate for myself but now am learning to learn and accept the fact that it wasn't my fault i felt like that , it was the people who didn't respect me or treated me like trash and as if i wasn't a person with emotions.The amount of times they have disrespected my body and i called them my friend really hurts me to think of. It was jokes for them to make fun of my body but why? Why do i let them cause me pain or cry or control my feelings? They aren't me so they don't have control, i do because its my Body, my feelings my Decisions.
By im_selu6 years ago in Motivation
Can you be too self-aware?
Checklist: 1. Do you take on responsibilities too much? - You feel the need to be responsible, even for others because you thought that you can actually achieve something from it. There were times you blame people for their incompetence or lack in skills that you assumed you are good at, reasoning that you deserve the recognition of being better than others. It almost became an "easier" way to push the blame onto others.
By Venera Lee6 years ago in Motivation
BREAKING HABITS
Habits can be good or bad depending on the outcome of these habits. The difficult part about breaking habits is not knowing that you are doing these habits. Like waking up every morning but cannot fully function unless you drink your coffee to start your day. An unnoticeable habit after a while starts to become a part of us and our life. Noticing something as easy as this can become a start to finding out your habit, Creating a new one and Ensuring Consistency.
By Walter B6 years ago in Motivation
Quarantine made me a better version of myself
Hot take but the quarantine has been one of the best things to happen to me in a long time. While baking copious amounts of breads and treats, trying Chloe Ting workouts and binge watching The Great British Baking Show, I have simultaneously grown into a more authentic and healthy version of myself
By Sophie Baron6 years ago in Motivation
Why scripting works
COPYRIGHT DISCLOSURE “All rights reserved. No part of this Mental Toughness Power Action blog publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form, or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recorded, scanning, displaying, modifying, republication, republishing, posting on any website, platform, social media, RSS feeds or otherwise without the prior written permission of the publisher or author. Requests to the author should be addressed to [email protected].” — Copyright 2007, CIPO, USCO Mental Toughness For Life, Coach Franco Cianflone
By FRANCO CIANFLONE 6 years ago in Motivation
LOVE YOURSELF.
If i asked you to name some of the things you love how long would it take before you named yourself? 'Love yourself', you have probably heard that a million times....Easier said than done right? Truth is as much as we really think we love ourselves, its the most difficult thing to ever do. Accepting who you are, your features, your body, your color, your language and everything else there is about you isn't as easy as we think or are told.
By Fay Alexis6 years ago in Motivation
